Boy, the title of this book says it all: Step Motherhood: How SURVIVE Without Feeling Frustrated, Left Out, or Wicked. When I married my husband several years ago I became the wife to a man with two sons making me the Step Mom. Going into this new relationship I knew I would not be their mother, they had one and they weren’t looking for a replacement especially since the boys were actually young men and good young men at that. I only wanted them to respect me as their father’s wife and anything beyond that was extra. Today I believe we are closer than that. I make a point to not interfere with their lives. I help them out in any way I can and do my best not to interfere.
I do feel frustrations at times. They come when their dad does something for them that I disagree with but just have to sit back and trust him, even when I don’t agree. Frustrated when their dad makes decisions that affect me concerning the boys and he tells me, not ask me about it. Frustrations when it seems that the boys hold back and don’t just come to me directly and use their dad as a filter.
Feeling left out comes and goes during the strangest times it happens when we are all sitting around and they start talking about things that happened when the boys were little, it happens when they are struggling and I just have to sit back and watch.
Hopefully I don’t come off as the Wicked Stepmother very often but you would have to check with them on that one, I’m probably a little biased.
I truly only want what is best for them and the biggest problem I have is that I have is that I have fallen totally in love with both of them making it hard not to jump in and over step the roll of Step Mom. It’s a balancing act that is tenuous at best and most of the time I stay quiet. Just in the last couple of weeks we as a family have had our opportunities that could either pull us apart of bring us closer and only time will tell where we end up.
BTW: I have not read this book
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